tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.comments2010-03-18T08:03:52.870-07:00More Good StuffMrs4444http://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-15517021190487494542010-03-18T08:03:52.870-07:002010-03-18T08:03:52.870-07:00You are a beautiful person to forgive your Dad for...You are a beautiful person to forgive your Dad for the demons he faced every day. We all have demons and we all hope and pray people will forgive us for them. How wonderful that you could do that or your Dad!Holli Glendenninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08861325276639771152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-56825395318536072832010-02-19T22:47:57.340-08:002010-02-19T22:47:57.340-08:00I stumbled across some of these older posts. I th...I stumbled across some of these older posts. I think you ought to repost them - these are GOLD! My kids are actually pretty well behaved because I've adhered to many of these techniques myself, but I find myself biting my tongue so much when I see my friends on twitter complaining about their kids acting so poorly, or when I see my friends not parenting their children well. I wish parents would learn some of these techniques so they would enjoy their children more. Well behaved kids can be so wonderful and fun to be around!AdriansCrazyLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04463022076036044242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-20884779860127174082009-10-02T23:17:45.205-07:002009-10-02T23:17:45.205-07:00Good post for parents.
Thanks for this.
More par...Good post for parents.<br /><br />Thanks for this.<br /><br />More parenting ideas at : <a href="http://www.successfulsingleparenting.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.successfulsingleparenting.com</a>Jennifer Broadleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11486337007499597532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-58671635858963911412009-03-06T13:41:00.000-08:002009-03-06T13:41:00.000-08:00I dont know how to add the linky thing and I dont ...I dont know how to add the linky thing and I dont see it for this fridays fragments but I did mention you w/o the linkyMarjnHomerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01331096530421066392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-87363795686860172162009-03-06T04:21:00.000-08:002009-03-06T04:21:00.000-08:00I'm bone dry on fragments this week but I pointed ...I'm bone dry on fragments this week but I pointed my bloggy friends your way. Hugs, JenTuTu's Blisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13171659325216495400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-40860589294714784572009-03-02T18:45:00.000-08:002009-03-02T18:45:00.000-08:00Anonymous, I'm not sure if you're referring to my ...Anonymous, I'm not sure if you're referring to my dad or my dad's dad, but your comment (if it's about Dad's dad) has got me thinking... I guess I could be wrong about his being physically abusive...maybe I've made an assumption, based on the fact that both of his sons were physically abusive fathers.... Now you've definitely got me thinking.... Can two men grow up to physically their kids without having been physically abused themselves? Hmm. I hope we can talk about this one day. (You know where to find me. :)Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-80799325087554112862009-03-01T18:13:00.000-08:002009-03-01T18:13:00.000-08:00Wow! I never knew my dad was abusive. No way!!Wow! I never knew my dad was abusive. No way!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-32702788655910559992009-02-20T12:33:00.000-08:002009-02-20T12:33:00.000-08:00this was fun. i did my first friday fragments toda...this was fun. i did my first friday fragments today. :)Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05413162470233044403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-82808360050922695572009-01-26T04:25:00.000-08:002009-01-26T04:25:00.000-08:00My wife and I just were talking about this. About ...My wife and I just were talking about this. About how we have tried different parenting techniques but do not always stick to them and instead try something else. This weekend we decided to try a new tact with our eldest and we will stick to it this time (at least that is our plan). Wish us luck!Dad of Divashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07036276450518783326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-20116841237894350022009-01-26T04:23:00.000-08:002009-01-26T04:23:00.000-08:00I try and give both of my girls time alone with me...I try and give both of my girls time alone with me as I am the one who works outside the home. Sometime though it is hard to carve this out, though I know it makes a difference. There are also times where I have to take away this time if behaviors of my eldest warrant it. I hate to use this as a punishment, but sometimes it works. Oh the trials and tribulations of being a parent!Dad of Divashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07036276450518783326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-25969550052716361362009-01-26T04:17:00.000-08:002009-01-26T04:17:00.000-08:00I agree completely that limits have to be set. The...I agree completely that limits have to be set. The challenge I find is when you have a child that tests every limit that you set (and she's only 4). Yet, I know that we have to remain vigilant and strong through this period...though it is trying at times...Dad of Divashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07036276450518783326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-9336947855305080472009-01-14T20:27:00.000-08:002009-01-14T20:27:00.000-08:00Awesome words of wisdom Mrs4444.Although my boys t...Awesome words of wisdom Mrs4444.<BR/><BR/>Although my boys tend to be night owls and I slack off on their bed times when it's not a school night, they still know there are boundaries. Even my 16 yr old may not still go to bed at 9:00 like the 7 yr old but he will take his quiet time to himself so we can do the same (or we are dealing with the baby...he still does not understand the rules ;) little stinker).Leannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07805631009814089439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-88869590129411537182009-01-14T17:33:00.000-08:002009-01-14T17:33:00.000-08:00ooohhh that kind of bell ringing. i didn't know ju...ooohhh <I>that</I> kind of bell ringing. i didn't know just anybody could go do that! <BR/><BR/>and no, i didn't do any of the other bell ringing either. i was a goody, goody, go to church 3x a week, do all my homework, teacher's pet kinda girl. <BR/><BR/>and look at me now! lolnonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15393143364014980535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-20619289386042859212009-01-14T17:08:00.000-08:002009-01-14T17:08:00.000-08:00Nonna, Nonna, Nonna! Ever heard of the Salvation A...Nonna, Nonna, Nonna! Ever heard of the Salvation Army bell-ringing campaign? (Just kidding; I'm sure you've rung a few bells yourself!) Thank you.Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-8779225895587408152009-01-14T10:47:00.000-08:002009-01-14T10:47:00.000-08:00you are so wise! i agree with everything you say a...you are so wise! i agree with everything you say and wonder why you haven't wrote a book yet! <BR/><BR/>oh, and what the heck is bellringing? sounds like something naughty :) like ringing a doorbell and running, but i'm sure you and your son didn't do that together! lolnonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15393143364014980535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-38676202545687086802009-01-12T22:15:00.000-08:002009-01-12T22:15:00.000-08:00great post. sounds like you know your stuff. i loo...great post. sounds like you know your stuff. i look forward to reading more on this subject.<BR/><BR/>i was a youth worker for 8 years and i think i understand a lot from a teenager's point of view. i just wish i could share that knowledge with certain parents to where they could understand the consequences of their lack of parenting. there are a lot of hurting kids out there....https://www.blogger.com/profile/02410214795470767158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-57571839662158396002009-01-12T22:10:00.000-08:002009-01-12T22:10:00.000-08:00someone once told me this and it has stuck with me...someone once told me this and it has stuck with me and makes me look at people and circumstances differently than i used to...<BR/><BR/>"everyone responds from their own point of pain."<BR/><BR/>we all have a point of pain and we all respond to life and others in accordance to that point.<BR/><BR/>it's heartwarming to me to hear you talk about your dad and say that you love(d) him despite some of the pain he inflicted....https://www.blogger.com/profile/02410214795470767158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-48302060929562330062009-01-12T11:44:00.000-08:002009-01-12T11:44:00.000-08:00So very well said. I could not agree more with the...So very well said. <BR/><BR/>I could not agree more with the parent time. My daughter is 10 and is still in bed at 8 although all her friends go to bed by 10. Bedtime has always been 8 with my kids and they have never had a problem with it. It is our time to relax, unwind and enjoy each others company.<BR/><BR/>I can't wait to follow up on all our other posts about this.Amy Amy Bo Bameyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12802405717161236476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-15756800965810688702009-01-12T11:17:00.000-08:002009-01-12T11:17:00.000-08:00Kids love adults who make them feel safe and with ...Kids love adults who make them feel safe and with whom they know what to expect. Right Karen? Thanks for adding your story.Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-73148029598175318382009-01-12T10:04:00.000-08:002009-01-12T10:04:00.000-08:00What a great idea!!!I think that what you have wri...What a great idea!!!<BR/><BR/>I think that what you have written, is extremely good advice.<BR/><BR/>I agree withy you that parenting is something that you need to prepare for. Good parenting is not an inborn instinct, especially in our modern age. <BR/><BR/>In my observations, the biggest parental skills that are missing/underused in the kids that I deal with, is setting limits and boundries.<BR/><BR/>We have one little boy, in the second grade class I volunteer in on Fridays, who is extremely rude and disobedient to his mother.<BR/><BR/>She noticed that he was really polite and obedient with me and mentioned that she wished he was like that with her.<BR/><BR/>I told her that he had been rude to me. At which point, I got down to his level, told him that he had to look me in my eyes and that we were going to sit here until he did. Then I told him that being rude.disobedient was unacceptable, that I would not tolerate that behaviour from him and that if he continured it, there would be consequences. <BR/><BR/>He kind of sneered at me and told me that I couldn't do anythingat which point I took his recess away for the rest of the day. The team teachers backed me up.<BR/><BR/>He's been extremely polite ever since.<BR/><BR/>To me, there are a number of important things taking place there..<BR/><BR/>Making limits clear ..<BR/><BR/>Setting consequences and sticking to them..<BR/><BR/>Being backed up by other adults..<BR/><BR/>Look forward to the resat of the series !!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17109531002159599556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-45972270240488917972009-01-12T07:36:00.000-08:002009-01-12T07:36:00.000-08:00Wow, Liz! Those books sound like excellent resourc...Wow, Liz! Those books sound like excellent resources. I'm definitely going to find them! Thanks.<BR/><BR/>You're welcome! :) We moms have to stick together!!<BR/><BR/>Thanks, Brandy. I will definitely check out your site when I am at home :)Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-81524655780863883322009-01-12T07:31:00.000-08:002009-01-12T07:31:00.000-08:00I'm very much looking forward to this series.I abs...I'm very much looking forward to this series.<BR/><BR/>I absolutely agree on the Education thing. I get so frustrated when a parent immediately poo-poo's a suggestion simply because I reference a book. I get tired of hearing "I don't parent from books, books don't know my kid, etc."<BR/><BR/>I read a vast amount of books with a variety of viewpoints. And when I find something in there that really works, I stick to it, make it part of my recipe box, so to speak, and I share what works for us. <BR/><BR/>Can I suggest some reading? Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller. Google either one of them- the content of their websites is identical, I think. They have written books on Parent Talk, Couples Talk, Teacher Talk. They focus on the power of language as a parneting tool... and more than that... that the words we choose to use have immense influence. The 2 books that I read the most frequently, that have been most influential for me, are "The Only 3 Discipline Solutions You Will Ever Need" and "The 10 Commitments."Eternal Lizdomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12436844959718198383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-22538049414530787022009-01-12T06:18:00.000-08:002009-01-12T06:18:00.000-08:00I think this is so wonderful. I look forward to re...I think this is so wonderful. I look forward to reading your series and since this fits right in with my Ask Brandy Ellen blog I posted up a link for my readers to come read your wonderful series. If you want to check it out you can here: http://askbrandyellen.blogspot.com/ ((HUGS))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-54046646735176630522009-01-12T04:50:00.000-08:002009-01-12T04:50:00.000-08:00I LOVE YOU! Thank you so much for posting a serie...I LOVE YOU! Thank you so much for posting a series on this topic! I totally agree with everything you have said (so does my Mom--my discipline coach)! My friends think I am crazy having my kids in bed at 7. I NEED TIME with my husband! That has always been our rule. I feel like I have set limits and Frick follows them to a T, but Frack...oh my sweet Frack. He is from a different mold! He is testing me every day. Thank you for the reassurance. I cannot wait for more posts.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11757339989585521274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-379646497022757880.post-37199438317012472952009-01-12T04:22:00.000-08:002009-01-12T04:22:00.000-08:00Nonna, I would ask her if she would think it cute ...Nonna, I would ask her if she would think it cute when he is in his teens and saying the same thing, even when she asks him to stop, because he thinks it's funny.<BR/><BR/>I also have a philosophy that if something doesn't fit with our family's values, then we don't invite it into our home. For example, music with lyrics that are over the top or TV shows that are idiotic (or, obviously, rated above our kids' levels). If these lyrics fit with your daughter's values, then she will embrace them and there is little you can do, unless she asks for help. I would focus on being an oasis for your grandson; a home that is loving and supportive (of him AND his mom :) and that provides limits that make him feel secure.<BR/><BR/>Anonymous, I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. My best friend lost her 3rd son in October, and I've witnessed the depths of grief I hope I never see again. You are in my prayers. As for your step-daughter, my email is in my profile, but I'm not sure that I would suggest anything different than what you've tried; professional help is in order for her. Your husband needs to get involved in that (counseling)and reach out to his daughter personally. It has to be tough watching her life spiral like that. Al-Anon is good resource for people dealing with the addictions of family members; you should consider attending a meeting and/or reading some of their suggested resources. Good luck!Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.com